...I love that Kevin and I don't exchange x-mas gifts.



I've seen numerous threads on Ravelry of women complaining that they *know* what their x-mas gifts from their husbands are because their husbands are:

• too clueless to pick out something themselves


• non-secretive


• incapable of shopping


• too lazy


• too lazy to wrap it themselves

That's just some of the reasons. You really start to wonder why the women are married to these losers. Or maybe, why they are in such dire need of gifts that are surprises? Why x-mas has become about the perfect surprise gift, and not about just spending time together and being happy?



I guess quite possibly they have absorbed those Lexus commercials in which the man gives the woman a brand new car for x-mas. Or the terrible diamond commercials in which the woman is surprised by a necklace/ring/bracelet. How sexist is that? How come the man never gets to be surprised? Do men not like gifts? Or have they not yet been brainwashed?



Kevin and I don't exchange x-mas gifts. We exchange birthday gifts, and Kevin picks out very excellent things for that. But for x-mas, we agree to do something nice together or get something that we need. So one year, we bought new glasses because we both needed them. This year, we got our x-mas gifts early and bought iPhones.



This plan causes no stress ("what am I supposed to get?!") and no disappointment ("I wanted to be surprised" or "I wish it was a better gift."). Now our plan may not work for everyone, and we certainly exchange gifts with our family members, but the no gifts policy makes us happy. I think some of these whiners need to think about it as an option. Or at least be grateful that they can afford gifts, and stop being so sexist.






As a tangent, those complaining women who know what they are getting and it is things that they wanted anyway, should consider that they could have had the husband that another woman complained about who bought her a ton of Walmart yarn for x-mas because it was cheap!